Have you recently gone through a break-up? Was it messy and terrible and emotional and soul destroying and you’re not sure if you will ever be able to love again? I know I’m just some stranger on the internet, but I have some advice I would like you to hear. We all have relationships that don’t work out, for as many reasons as there are personality types
on this earth.We meet someone new, we get that tickle in our stomach, we flirt and that tickle turns into a warm feeling, we date and we become more intimate, we lose ourselves heart and soul and then we fall in love, we have our first problems and these are solved we grow, our lives continue and the problems keep coming back, sometimes bigger, sometimes smaller and then one day it all comes to a crescendo and we then break-up and move apart and we lose our minds with longing for the person we can’t have.
This painful, terrible process may feel like it breaks us, but I promise you, as cliché as it sounds, it makes you stronger and more sure of what you ARE looking for the next time around. It’s how we trim the playing field and learn what personality traits we are most compatible with. We also develop a better sense of what the red flags are for the future.
What you are going through now is not something reading an article will quickly fix, I just want to remind you that the pain after break-up will fade. I want to give you some perspective and let you know that you will eventually love again and more importantly, BE loved again. You will date and flirt and feel that tickle in your stomach again, some of these experiences will be great and others will be terrible. Stick with it and try and get the most pleasure you can out of the entire process.
Don’t limit yourself with fear and maybe’s, do not view yourself as damaged or broken. You could very well be everything that person is looking for, and there is only one way to find out.
Do not sulk when the person you thought you clicked with does not respond to your messages. Get right back in there and keep searching. Gold is valuable because it is hard to find. Silver is valuable because it keeps its shine.
Be yourself and the right partner will come along to fit you perfectly. If you try and change who you are to accommodate someone else, you will end up with the wrong-shaped personality to fit you.
One day in the not so distant future, you will wake up healed after a break-up and ready to start again. If that day is not today, give yourself time to heal and grieve, and when you are ready, we will be here to help you take the first step to finding the perfect person to start the whole wonderful process all over again. And who knows where that next relationship will take you, that is the beauty of opening yourself to love, there is no half measures, only belief.